It's something I have to repeatedly work on. It's amazing how difficult it is to be honest. There can be so much fear of what will happen, what someone will think, what someone will do or how they will react if I tell them the truth.
Will they leave me? Will they judge me? Will they hate me? Will they get others to hate me? Will it hurt them?
The interesting thing is that none of us can predict the future, but when we decide to be dishonest, we are actually assuming that we can.
Think about it.
The reason why you don't tell the truth is because of what you perceive the outcome will be. So, obviously, you think that the result to sharing the truth, to being honest, is a negative one. Something that will hurt you or someone else. And so you try to act like God and control the outcome.
I'm working on it. I'm hoping that God can help me. Because if you could see the inner workings of my mind and how I dance around telling the truth sometimes to avoid pain, well... It's just nuts.
So, I'm giving you the advice that I give myself. Don't lie.
Don't do it (talking to myself - helps to repeat it).
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Friday, February 10, 2012
The difference between men and women
I received a text. It was a question and it was from a man. "What size do you wear?"
A complicated question, really. And I had to answer it in a text, so I needed to make sure to keep my wording precise and to the point. I wasn't really worried about judgment about my size... well, I take that back... there was a part of me that wanted to go with the smaller size... I mean, it depends on the store, right?
So, my answer went something like this:
"Well, I usually wear a medium on both top and bottom, but it depends on if I am shopping in the women's department or the junior's department. I prefer to shop in the junior's department. I could wear a small top in the women's department, but I would have to go medium or large in the junior's department, depending on the type of top. As far as bottoms, I believe I'm usually like a size 6 or 7 in the women's department but that could be a 9 or 11 in jeans from the juniors department."
His response:
"So, medium is good?"
My response:
"yes." And the feeling that I had just gone waaay overboard in explaining something to someone who could only handle a one word answer.
I hope it (whatever it is) fits.
A complicated question, really. And I had to answer it in a text, so I needed to make sure to keep my wording precise and to the point. I wasn't really worried about judgment about my size... well, I take that back... there was a part of me that wanted to go with the smaller size... I mean, it depends on the store, right?
So, my answer went something like this:
"Well, I usually wear a medium on both top and bottom, but it depends on if I am shopping in the women's department or the junior's department. I prefer to shop in the junior's department. I could wear a small top in the women's department, but I would have to go medium or large in the junior's department, depending on the type of top. As far as bottoms, I believe I'm usually like a size 6 or 7 in the women's department but that could be a 9 or 11 in jeans from the juniors department."
His response:
"So, medium is good?"
My response:
"yes." And the feeling that I had just gone waaay overboard in explaining something to someone who could only handle a one word answer.
I hope it (whatever it is) fits.
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